How Much Do You Cost?

Just like commodities have prices, we humans also have prices, and this is known as Value. Let's come to think of this; What really makes a commodity expensive? Why would some goods be more valued than others? Why would the seller of a commodity jealously watch over some of his goods than others? I'm sure by now some answers would have been surfacing in our minds. 
One of such reasons why a commodity might be so expensive is because of the amount of input invested in it before becoming a finished product. If we take a deeper look at it, we will realise that what the manufacturer really charges the consumer for is TIME. The time spent in generating the ideas in it's initial stage, the time expended in drafting down the plans and modalities the ideas will take, the energy and time used in setting up work forces and so on. This then determines the cost at which a buyer will get away with the commodity. 
 This same principle works when humans are in view. Do you know that your worth as an individual is also commensurate to the Time spent in investing in you? If you were possible for you to be put out on stick, how much would you worth? Funny enough, no one needs to be put out on stock before his truth worth can be revealed. Nature has an impartial way of placing everyone in life in the pedestal fitting for him. 
Perhaps you've heard the popular maxim "birds of same feathers flock together". This is a pure and natural truth. 
As a young man who has equally observed other young folks, I have come realise that we do not make true progress in life because of our choice of concentration. We have concentrated more on the 'end' at the mercy of the 'means'.  Some have grown into preachers who aim at soaring high in ministry but thinking publicities and other packagings will get them there, not knowing all they need is to spend time with God who has called them and they soar high without stress. 
This is a sure way of increasing one's value in a competitive world. 

How about trying to place our priorities right come 2018?

RELATIONSHIP BY CHOICE

So many people just like myself had in one time or the other been caught in the web of wanting to gain the approval of almost everyone around them. The pursuit of this is sincerely unrealistic as we can only be sure of our reaction to others but hardly can tell how others react to us. Now that should be simply seen and accepted as nature is. 
The world is comprised of billions and billions of humans; different language, different beliefs, different geography, different sense of judgment, and utterly different differences. However, as diverse as we all are, there is a hundred and one possibility to Love everyone - and Love here isn't that which is borne by the reason of attraction, but we refer to that which is pure and divine. 
 In a situation where there are many square pegs, many square holes, many round pegs, and many round holes, there will be much need for compatibility checks if perfect fitting is to be achieved. If you agree with me to this extent, why then do you sometimes frown when everyone doesn't seem to get along with you? Maybe they are just some round pegs wanting to fit into your square hole. The disastrous thing about such relationship is that you keep getting negatively affected if you choose to drag along with it. 
In the same way, you do not just afford everyone the opportunity to come within your close circle. The Close Circle is meant to be closed and that's why it is called so. This is so important because the outcome of what your life becomes is directly a result of those you have consciously or unconsciously allowed into your inner circle.  Emotions are too weak to stand our relationships on. 

Agreeing into an Ideal Sociey

80% of the people who lives in your street experience some forms of rape on a daily basis.                                                                                                     - Joseph Olasunkanmi. 

Have you ever witnessed people jump into queues in malls, banking halls, bus terminals and so on? This display is a vivid reflection of the natural man's drive to always want to please himself at the expense of others - and I mean at the painful expense of others. That selfish disposition is one that is deeply rooted in our make up as humans and continually expresses itself through our words and actions. The nature then gradually fades away as we recognize and embrace a higher way of life; and it is important to know that as humans we will never attain a higher way of life not until when we shift our entire focus to God who fashioned both the higher and lower life but deliberately kept us in the lower life with the expectation that we will someday discover the limitations and weaknesses of the lower life and in exchange long for the higher life found in him. 
Not every seeming progress we make are genuine. Often times when we attain some levels of satisfaction and progress at the expense of others. We get a pass after so much pleading; some rouges get undue fares from the motorists; robbers forcefully get their undue share out of people's income at gun point; parents forces children to study course against their wish in college and so much more. Everything looks progressive really in a way - at least, they all come with a level of satisfaction to the person who had his way. We happen to be in a world where results matters more then the process and that is why majority of the result addicted persons have faulty processes. They have embraced Nicollo Machiavelli's maxim; "the end justifies the means". The truth is not far fetched as it is evident in the opposite. 
In our previous post, we stated how a square peg wouldn't fit into a round hole, there will definitely be a hurt somewhere. Are we saying life must be all rossy and processes all smooth? I beg to differ. However, we can not  make progress  " deliberating" hurting others. A rapist is tagged who he is because he has that natural cravings to make "progress"  which everyone has but that he has failed to go through a due process of negotiation and agreement. People steal because they do not want to go through the protocol of trade. Likewise people who recognise the existence of the supreme God, recognise the worthiness of maintaining a good relationship with Him, are not patient enough to follow through the protocol of  an intimate relationship with Him. So they come storming in God's throneroom with the "give me, give me" cliche. If humans are emotional, God is too...we came out of Him. 
Let the change begin from you! 
Wow! I'm so glad you followed through. You mean so much to me.

The Ultimate Relationship Code

IN THE THICKETS OF SEX (II)

People who go through certain experiences come out being the best teacher fit to teach such experiences to others; hence the popular saying " experience is the best teacher". At the same time, certain experiences do not leave the person who underwent them in good shape. The fortunate ones live to tell the story and that goes a long way. The less fortunate ones also share their story in a way too. It's just that their story makes Biography and not an Autobiography;  and you know biographies can be easily manipulated - after all the personality behind the making of the story has exchanged his life for his story. Hmmm! That looks like a stream of thought I wouldn't want to stop, but I choose to stop so we can go for the heart of the matter for this post.
   Yesterday our guest narratred how her identity was mistook for a sex toy by the male figures around her. Let us hear some more from her;

  "...all these experiences left an anchor in my mind. By anchor, I mean a permamnenet form of memory attached to a meaning which can be  or negative. So, the molestation amd exposures became an anchor for me. One day after being bored by the usual CDs in the living room, I stumbled  some CDs in my uncle's room which I went straight to watch out of curiosity. I was surprised to see naked people having sex on the screen. At this point my interest grew that I began to search frantically to lay my hands on any other " blue film" CD I could find. So at the age of 11 and 12, I had become so sexually exposed and active but I wasn't havi7ng sex..."

Wow! The fire has been set already and it's really burning hard. This might be the experience of someone reading this post. It is such an experience that "leaves an anchor in one's mind" - as the narrator puts it.

GUESS WHAT...
* A larger percentage of every child sexual assault perpetrated is done by people that should be responsible for the child's well being. They include; caregivers,  school teachers, pastors, coach and many more

...to be continued
What do you think about the poem please?

The Elegy of an Ex-Virgin  II

Life operates on causes and effects, so I heard
Now how do I reap an effect to which cause is unknown?
Paul planted, Apollos watered...
My father planted, my momma watered...
Why should unruly men reap the increase?

Watch out as we continue on our next post...
Share your perspectives about the poem please.


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IN THE THICKETS OF SEX (Part 1)

  Hello friends! Wow, I'm just so glad you're here again. Guess what, today I'll be sharing with us a sexual discourse using the story of a leading voice in the business of relationship and marital coaching, Mrs Nike Adedokun.   More preeminent than it has been, the subject of sexual pervasion has been on the increase. You wouldn't believe if that lady you've always admired had gone through terrible sexual assaults neither would you imagine that the seemingly cool guy who offers you his "platonic" kind gestures abuses his neighbour's child who is just 4years old.

Traditionally, rape is the forceful imposition of some sexual activities upon another person or group of persons definitely without their consent. Now,  let us try broaden our scope. A rape would not be considered a rape if there were to be a mutual consent and an unimposing attitude. It's good then we establish that the activity of rape goes beyond the forceful manipulation into sexual activities whether or not with the sexual organs. Just last week on PLR(Purpose Love and Relationship), Mrs Adedokun raised a question on what the greatest sexual organ is. Many would have thought if to be the Penis or Virgina as it were, but it was later agreed to be the MIND. How can the mind be a sexual organ, after all it shouldn't be more than a reasoning faculty?
Let us take some cues from Mrs Adedokun who was sexually abused by her teacher at the age of 6. She says;

"At the age of 6, my lesson teacher began to sexually molest me.I once visited a family who managed a room apartment where we all slept(I, the children and their parents). With this, I often wake up to witness their parents have sex. That scenario stuck in my mind coupled with the fact that I was already being molested by my teacher. Sooner enough, other neighbors, class mates and the boys in the street saw some selfish reasons to molest me the more. I was pretty as a young girl but already battered inside of me...

Hmmm...please permit that I stop here for today. We will go further in the next post.
Perhaps, you can already relate with this scenario, we will really love that you share your comments or even ask questions.
Thanks for your time!






POETIC VOICES


Elegy of An Ex-Virgin

Whose fault is it? 
That my hormones are extra active
So much as to cause a sporadic protrusion of my breasts?
That I inherited elephant-like buttocks from my momma 
So much that men wouldn't let me rest - young and old alike?

...to be continued. 

I'm glad you followed through... You can always drop a comment in the comments space

The Necessity of Relationship

Wow! This is a good place to start. Yes, I mean at this exact point. Well I am sure you know that humans are generally wired not to function alone. We are like complementary products that needs the help of another product to function effectively.  That is to say that our strength relies on the availability of some other human or nonhuman factors.
You personally don't have all it takes to survive alone and that is why your need for association is nonnegotiable.  Wow! I so long that you will pay serious attention to the posts shared here and watch your life transform miraculously through your relationships. 

I'll however love to be caught dropping my pen while reminding you that you can change your life if you'll be willing to change your relationships.

Can't wait to see you soonest...